In Sept 6, 2006, when I first posted Holly Cole performing Cry (If You Want To), someone close to me was facing fearsome health problems and was undergoing exams to pinpoint the diagnosis and determine the treatment. Throughout all this she was nothing less than courageous and, in fact, persisted in being perky so much of the time that even many of those who knew her may did grasp how serious her condition was.
I had spent two or three hours starting and trashing posts more typical of this blog when I realized that such efforts were futile. Instead, I offered only this single song that I had found comforting at such times.
I’ve listened to this song many, many times. I believe its special appeal is its acknowledgment, echoing the sentiments of Anjani’s Blue Alert in another context, that the connection between two people (which may be labeled caring or friendship or family ties or romance or empathy or numerous other names but is, as shrinks and poets learn if they are taught properly, most accurately known as love) is ultimately insufficient to rescue us from the human condition coupled with the knowledge that this terrifying fact is itself what lends dignity to making such an offer to that person; giving everything, knowing that, in the end, it can’t be enough, is what makes love precious and essential.