“When my son died, Leonard Cohen emailed me: ‘I’m with you, brother.’ It was one of the most meaningful messages I received.” Nick Cave

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When my son died, Leonard Cohen emailed me: ‘I’m with you, brother.’ It was one of the most meaningful messages I received at the time. He was compassionate. A lot of people don’t know how to be around at those times; a lot of people don’t know how to deal with grief. There’s a big difference between being compassionate and empathetic. Empathy is when you feel what the other person is feeling, and in these moments you don’t want to reverberate fear and sadness wherever you go. Someone compassionate will know how to just be around you, make you a cup of tea.

 

Nick Cave

 

From Grief, religion, creativity and other amazing truths we learned at Conversations with Nick Cave by Christina Almeida (The Line of Best Fit: 20 June 2019).

It is enlightening to compare this with Leonard’s own thoughts on suffering: When Dealing With Grief “You don’t avoid the situation – you throw yourself into it, fearlessly.” Lessons From Leonard Cohen.

 

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  1. Allan, I am so honored that you graced me with this article. It was so moving. As I embrace each day, I realize more and more how precious they are. But accepting the inevitable is also part of what Leonard’s life was all about. His poetry and philosophy made us so comfortable with the end.
    L’chaim to life always .

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