“The woman is saying, ‘What is our relationship? Are we engaged? … Are we lovers?’ And my disposition is, ‘Do we really have to have this discussion, because it’s not as good as our relationship.’ We were having a good time until you brought this up.” Leonard Cohen

Relationships are often difficult, he says.

 

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I find that people want to name it. The woman is saying, ‘What is our relationship? Are we engaged? Are we boyfriend and girlfriend? Are we lovers?’ And my disposition is, ‘Do we really have to have this discussion, because it’s not as good as our relationship.’ We were having a good time until you brought this up. But as you get older, you want to accommodate, and say, ‘Yeah, we’re living together. This is for real. I’m not looking for anyone else. You’re the woman in my life.’ Whatever terms that takes: a ring, an arrangement, a commitment, or from one’s behaviour, by the way you act. You make it clear by minute adjustments. A woman goes by. You can look, but you can adjust so that it’s not an insult, an affront or a danger. So you’re continually making those adjustments, so that you don’t make anyone suffer. You’re with somebody, and you want to make it work.

 

Leonard Cohen

 

Life Of A Ladies’ Man by Sarah Hampson. Globe and Mail: May. 25 2007. Photo by Paul Zollo.

I am republishing selected posts from my former Leonard Cohen site, Cohencentric, here on AllanShowalter.com (these posts can be found at Leonard Cohen). This entry was originally posted Aug 7, 2015.

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