“But I got cat class and I got cat style” Julie, Rachel, Me, & The Stray Cat Strut


One of Facebook’s undeniable delights is the evocation of fond memories at risk of being forgotten. Rachel, Julie’s1 daughter by her first marriage, was much loved by both of us. But, because of marital and legal conflicts, she grew up hundreds of miles away under the care of her grandparents – except for rare visits, such as her attendance at our wedding.

Rachel spontaneously messaged me recently, mentioning that I was continuing to introduce her to new music. While I was overwhelmed by Rachel’s appreciation, it was her followup comment about Julie that was heartrendingly poignant.


When I hear the Stray Cats it takes me back….can see her dancing and singing in my mind.



  1. Julie was my much-beloved, fiercely smart, extraordinarily sexy wife, who died in 1999 from cancer diagnosed the week of our wedding nearly 20 years earlier. She was also a prize-winning writer. This blog includes many other posts about her and the unlikely but true story of our romance as well as several of her short stories and other pieces. For the location of the various content about or by Julie, see Julie FAQ. []

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